前一陣子在網路上聽說田村正和拍了一齣新的日劇，『夫婦』，馬上就盧著Ando-san把片子下載回來看。
從剛接觸日劇開始，就喜歡上了田村正和。從以前到現在，一直沒有什麼偶像，唯二的兩個人，就是指揮大師卡拉揚和『壯年』演員，田村正和(Tamura Masakazu)。
結婚後的現在，看『夫婦』，特別有感覺。每次看完一集，Ando-san就會被一連串的問題砲轟；看完第一集的時候，Ando-san就開玩笑說要把檔案刪掉；
『這個片子實在太危險了～』，他說。
說是這麼說，他還是很開心的陪我一起看，一起討論劇中呈現的問題。
日本的傳統文化或許如此，大男人主義，家庭主婦要將家裡打理得乾乾淨淨；先生只負責賺錢，其餘所有事情都該是老婆處理好。甚至每天喝得醉醺醺，回到家倒頭就睡；實在好奇娶老婆是否只是為了要傳宗接代兼找個免費菲傭！？劇中呈現的或許誇張了些，但我記得有一次乾媽開玩笑告訴我：
有一天她先生回家喝水，將水杯放到洗碗槽之後，轉頭對她說：『我今天的家事做完了！』
還好，Ando-san沒有這麼對我。
家，本來就是兩個人共有的，應該是一起維護，一起經營的。
兩個人相處，也是該互相體諒、體貼。
我下班比較早，會先將菜洗好、切好，等志慧下班；
Ando-san下班回來，會搶鍋鏟炒菜，怕我被油濺到、燙傷；
吃飽飯，兩個人又爭著洗碗，又是猜拳、又是丟銅板的 -- 沒有人真的喜歡洗碗，搶洗碗，是希望對方能夠多休息，捨不得對方累。
隨時為對方設身處地著想，我希望能夠一直保有這種心情。
結婚以後，我希望能夠做好老婆的角色，照顧好Ando-san，讓公婆放心的將Ando-san交給我，就像哥哥放心的把我交給Ando-san；
我也在學習當個好媳婦，讓Ando-san知道，我會像孝順自己父母般的對待公婆。
或許還沒能做得很好，但是我總是盡力去做，慢慢學習。
有時候反而是對自己要求太高了，擔心這顧慮那的，把自己搞得很緊張，壓力很大。Ando-san總要我放鬆，他老是對我說：
『我不是娶老婆回來打掃房子、洗菜煮飯的。老婆是娶回來疼的～。』
甚至因為我老是搶著洗碗、擦地，他決定要制訂『生活公約』，明訂洗碗得輪流洗，擦地板的時候也要兩個人一起，不可以一個人偷偷跑去擦樓梯。聽他將Q版的生活公約逐條唸出，逗得我笑得肚疼；條文寫得有趣，背後卻透露了他疼老婆的心思與體貼。
我一直很慶幸，在生命中遇到他。從交往到現在，一切是那麼自然，好像，生命中就該有他在身旁。不需要適應期，沒有猶疑；就像是行星上了軌道，就這麼自然且恆久的運行。
再過一個多月，結婚就滿一年了。希望，過了五年、十年，我們仍能保有現在珍惜對方的心情，記得許下承諾時的感動；記得，掌心相握、對目而視時的悸動。
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好感人..每次看到你的文字..都讓我覺得好感動.. 其實在出國前我就看過這個日劇..總覺得瑜蔓太幸福.. 應該還不太需要看這種片子..我就把片子寄給文妮啦... 沒想到原來你的偶像是田村鄭和阿..呵呵... 別把自己逼的太緊喔～～
I am really really touched every time when I read your article.... I am so gld to see you and Jihue have such a great marrige life..... Jihue and I fought with each other so much and always had arguments when we were kids, maybe he is the youngest child in the family, and a little bit be spoiled by my parents....hahaha....(that's my personal opinion),so we'd never had a very good relationship at that time, and I'd never tried to understand what kind of person he was. But, now I know he has grown up and is a such a great husband!! I feel so happy to see that he can take good care of his wife so much!! I also would like to say thnak you to you for taking care of my parents. I totally understand how hard and how stressful it is to be a daughter-in-law (hey,I am someone's daughter-in-law, I really know how it feel......^_*), so don't worry too much, you really did a wonderful job. And all you have to do is to enjoy your current life, and cherish each day you have right now. By the way,if Jihue wants to do the house works, just let him do it because he didn't do too much when he was young, so he has to make them up right now....hahaha...tell him that Big sister said so......woooohahahaha........
Dear Jojo: 看到妳的Blog也很感動啊---居然做起蔥油餅了!出國果然是會讓人成長! 有妳們這群姊妹在身邊, 我可是信心/勇氣十足呢. 妳要好好照顧自己唷~ +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ Dear Big sister: Haha, i will follow your "instruction", asking Jihue to do this and that, being the queen of the house; Jihue will play the role of Cinderella. Ha! Thanks for the words, it means a lot to me. I know all of family members are very nice to me. Jihue is indeed a wonderful husband. I am very lucky to meet him and be part of family. We kept thinking of chiao-bao. There are times that we will imitate posture of chiao-chiao. For example: the way she says: "sorry!"; the tone she says:"oh~ 好冷喔!" She is so cute! You should bring her back for Chinese new year, I believe that she will earn lots "red-envelope", ha!